The reason why all these conservative douche-canoes keep flailing about in an effort to keep queers from being treated like full citizens:
They are afraid of us.
We show them up for what they are, frauds, liars and weak human beings. They can keep lying to themselves about how they are doing everything right because there is no other basis for comparison, but since we show that love can look many ways and still be a positive thing, we put lie to their ideas and their very lives. They don't like options for all because they hate their own decisions and resent their own lack of options.