tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35611028.post6937984191989998646..comments2023-08-17T05:44:18.593-04:00Comments on A Truly Elegant Mess: You keep using that word...Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35611028.post-25163145141970711672009-04-13T22:03:00.000-04:002009-04-13T22:03:00.000-04:00Jottie, I have had that same argument with most of...Jottie, I have had that same argument with most of the people in my life. Saying it this way doesn't actually convince people who are dead set on blaming anyone but the person who made the conscious decision to treat someone like shit, but it does serve as a good shock to those who never thought to think about it (and redundant statement is superfluous. :D)Dorihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13676888930241945753noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35611028.post-77465846612796919792009-04-13T21:51:00.000-04:002009-04-13T21:51:00.000-04:00Love this post, Dori.
I just recently had the m...Love this post, Dori. <br /><br />I just recently had the most infuriating conversation with co-workers at the bar where I work. A few weeks ago, another colleague of ours had left work very drunk, passed out in the taxi & woke up with the cab driver climbing on top of her. The idiot bartenders who were telling me the story went on and on about how she was "partly responsible" & couldn't understand why I was so horrified by their viewpoints. After an hour of seemingly yelling into the abyss, they still didn't get it, and I was so angry I just started sputtering, "That's egregiously offensive!" over and over again like a broken record player. <br /><br />The worst part was that they kept behaving as if, by refusing to blame victims of violence and prejudice for their circumstances, I were being naive about what a dangerous world it is out there." Well, fucking duh. That doesn't make this:<br /><br /><I>We are not responsible for your actions. It is not up to us to prevent you from hurting us, restricting our choices, killing us, and generally treating us like [less than] human beings.</I>any less true.<br /><br />If only I'd had this post folded up in my pocket for emergencies like that. Next time I won't be caught so unprepared. Thanks for summing it up so forcefully & clearly.Jottiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08647951361264282294noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35611028.post-89391688920845254752009-04-13T19:31:00.000-04:002009-04-13T19:31:00.000-04:00WICKEDSAUCE.
Awesomely written. <3WICKEDSAUCE.<br /><br />Awesomely written. <3Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35611028.post-10146758533173173102009-04-13T19:07:00.000-04:002009-04-13T19:07:00.000-04:00This is a fantastic post, and a great riposte to h...This is a fantastic post, and a great riposte to headsplittingly annoying conversations.JordanBakerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13955209974719209394noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35611028.post-24347428608177885342009-04-13T18:43:00.000-04:002009-04-13T18:43:00.000-04:00Hi, Dori.I also found this post via Shakesville, a...Hi, Dori.<BR/><BR/>I also found this post via Shakesville, and think it is excellent. <BR/><BR/>This in particular:<BR/><BR/><I>Why is it that the people with the least social value and power are expected to be the scapegoats for the behavior of those who the system is set up to serve?</I><BR/><BR/>Wonderful. So far-reaching, yet so easy to understand.Lindsayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10860246538349067232noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35611028.post-35824439955628923092009-04-13T16:58:00.000-04:002009-04-13T16:58:00.000-04:00Thanks for the feedback guys!Yeah, every time my m...Thanks for the feedback guys!<BR/><BR/>Yeah, every time my mother-in-law uses the word "responsibility" I cringe just a little. She really doesn't see the double standard and false parity she is creating.Dorihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13676888930241945753noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35611028.post-2357319802377522232009-04-13T15:23:00.000-04:002009-04-13T15:23:00.000-04:00Best Blog Post I've read today.Best Blog Post I've read today.bgkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09404919636052867325noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35611028.post-8974308747722013682009-04-13T14:07:00.000-04:002009-04-13T14:07:00.000-04:00Thanks Dori. Found you from Shakesville. Good post...Thanks Dori. Found you from Shakesville. Good post. It seems like the word, "responsibility" doesn't mean anything anymore - unless it's used as an excuse.Newsboyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13244129832973543322noreply@blogger.com